Bipolar Disorder and Consistent Relationships….

I was talking with a friend this morning and saying that I wish that all of my relationships could just be ‘consistent.’ The problem is that people really aren’t consistent. Things happen and to expect everyone to stay the same just because you want them to is not realistic.

Of course the main problem is that people with bipolar disorder need such incredible consistency in every way in order to even come close to stability.

I do work hard to have people in my life who love and respect me, but sometimes even those people change due to outside circumstances. They get into new relationships and our friendship changes. They have health problems and work problems.

I do know that one thing I can do is remain as honest and consistent as possible so that I can handle this stuff a bit better. I can be aware of what others do that upset me and what they do that makes me feel loved and supported. I can then try to be the best friend and family member possible. I just get so tired of having to deal with all of the mood swings that come from change. People without mood disorders have no idea, do they!

Julie

Out of all of my books, The Health Cards help the best to maintain positive relationships.

 

Bipolar Disorder and College

I recently had an email asking if a person with bipolar disorder can finish college.

Well, sure they can! But….

There is always a but…

College is the same thing as work. It’s a stimulating environment with a lot of people and a lot of pressure. Bipolar disorder doesn’t like this. It took me eight years to finish college. I didn’t have a treatment plan then. In fact, I didn’t know I had bipolar disorder! The diagnosis explains a lot.

As with any stressful situation, the solution is planning.

You will need a treatment plan before college starts.

I have to be honest and say I can’t go to school full time. It’s too stressful for me- but I can go part time! Many friends of mine with bipolar have master’s degrees, etc. So it’s possible.

If you’re starting college, you have to make a plan now. Try the Health Cards- the plan I use- or get something else. My books can help- especially if your family works with you.  Find something that will help you make collegee a wonderful experience!

Julie

What bipolar wellness feels like……

Sleep: I’m more able to get to sleep on my own without being scared to go to sleep or so depressed I write in my journal for an hour just to deal with the depression. I need less sleep medications.

Relationships: I’ve learned that it’s better to stick with who you know than to chase the excitement of strangers. It’s easier now that my brain is leaving me alone so that I can make more rational decisions.

Work: I can get up and work for at least four to five hours a day. It’s a goal. I can even work a few days in a row without getting sick.

Success: I’m reaching goals and actually feeling a small sense of accomplishment. I’ve never felt prolonged excitement over my writing success.

Family: I’ve become an asset instead of a burden to my family. This took eight years of hard work.

Thinking: I can choose thoughts instead of constantly having to fight the bipolar thoughts.

Money: I think before I spend.

Weight: Next to bipolar, my biggest struggle. Ongoing…………….

All of these are a work in progress. I do well if I can reach a few of these at a time! 😉

Julie

PS: How do you define wellness in terms of bipolar disorder?

Is it Mania or am I Just Amazing?

Here is a comment from Marcello- a reader from Texas. He told me what it feels like to have a manic episode.

“I can hear myself talking and talking these days. I have trouble letting people finish their sentences and always feel the need to get my words in. It’s embarrassing as it’s hard to monitor myself when I’m actually in a conversation. I know it’s happening! But it feels so good to talk- especially after a depression that made me so desperately unhappy. My friends are used to my talking- I just apologize and try to be a good listener when I’ve got too much manic energy. Then I have to face reality and talk to my nurse practitioner. I use your books Julie, but the mania still shows up. I wish that I could keep it away forever. As always, it feels better to be up than down- but being up has its own major problems: sleep issues, not eating (this is great for me, but a problem for others), the desire to drink, no desire to work and grandiose thoughts.

A few days ago, after a few days of depression, I woke up feeling ‘better.’ I thought what I always think- oh thank heavens the depression is gone. Then later that afternoon I had the thought, “America is such an amazing place. It’s so beautiful!” and then when I was at a movie theater, “I’m the most famous person in this room!” It’s very hilarious in some ways.

Not a good sign at all. It took me awhile to realize and admit that i was hypomanic (mild mania) and it made me sad to think I was rapid cycling again.

Rotten illness. I hate doing it, but I have to be honest with my friends and family and let them know I’m manic so they can help reign it in. I started my mania Health Card where I write down my mania symptoms so that I can go back and compare them to what I am feeling now. What I wrote is verbatim to what I am saying now. I guess the mania is real.

I then have to prepare for the inevitable depression and use my Get it Done techniques to deal with it.

You taught me that Mania is not GOOD and depression is not BAD. The are two sides to the bipolar coin.”

 

Thanks Marcello!

Julie

 

Reaching a dream

I gave a talk for a very large crowd this weekend.  It was such a great experience- and I am very aware that a few years ago it was an experience that would have been too stressful for me to even contemplate.  But after years of work, I am now well enough to reach a dream- to help people who are in crisis by talking to them in a live setting.

I did all that I needed to do to stay well. My trusted business partner Sheri went with me- she helped with all of the set up. My hosts did all of the preparation for the talk. I made sure I got enough sleep the night before-  and I had a plan ready for how I would feel after the talk.

 In the past, the paranoia would have started as soon as I got off the stage. Yes, that soon! I take care of a lot of this by telling the audience that I will get paranoid- this gives them an idea of what a person with bipolar goes through as well as giving me a reminder that paranoia is normal for me- I don’t have to believe it.

It also makes everyone laugh.

Once the speech was done- I followed my own rules and said to myself, “Great job Julie. I am so proud of you. You did a great job.” and that was that. No second guessing and no self flagellating. This is a huge change for me. I’ve worked hard on it.

I went to a new location and gave a big presentation without having  mood swings. all right!

Julie

Guest Blog From Lauren R. Tharp

A Simple Blood Test That Could Save You Thousands of Dollars in Psychiatric Bills

By: Lauren R. Tharp – http://littlezotz.com 

 I do not have Bi-Polar Disorder.

               But, for a while, doctors thought I did.

                                        ……………Let me explain…

 In my teen years, I was acting, well, a little “mental” as my dad would say. So, of course, I was taken to the best “mental” doctors. Various psychiatrists and psychologists hmm’d at my situation, nodding their heads, and stroking their chins: “Bi-Polar Disorder!” “Depression!” “Borderline!”

 They had all sorts of ideas about my situation.

 But why did all of my symptoms virtually disappear sometimes, usually right after a good meal? And why weren’t any of these doctors addressing my physical symptoms—like my cold hands and feet, chronic headaches, or sensitivity to light?

 Long story short, my parents took me to a general practitioner. He investigated my physical symptoms, performed a glucose tolerance test, and I finally had my answer: Hypoglycemia.

 Once I was put on a proper diet, nearly all of my symptoms disappeared! No drugs needed!

 All of those years in psychiatric offices could have been prevented with a simple blood test.

 The sad thing is; my case is not unique. Roberta Ruggiero, founder of the Hypoglycemia Support Foundation, has a similar story. She went for over a decade thinking her problem was all in her head—and was even administered electroshock therapy!—before she was finally given a blood sugar test.

 Do I blame the doctors?  Begrudgingly, my answer is “no.”

 Bi-Polar Disorder and Hypoglycemia are shockingly similar!

 Do these symptoms sound familiar? 

  • Difficulty Concentrating
  • Emotional Fragility or Sensitivity (Big emotional reactions to “little” things)
  • Mental Confusion
  • Brain Chatter
  • Indecisiveness
  • Irritability
  • Exhaustion
  • Forgetfulness
  • Chatterbox (Talking more than normal—usually with a lack of “filters.”)
  • Difficulty Sleeping
  • Nightmares or Night Terrors
  • Antisocial Behavior or Noticeable Withdrawal from Activities
  • Temper Tantrums
  • Suicidal Thoughts or Tendencies

 That was a list of the side-effects of Hypoglycemia. They’re almost indistinguishable from Bi-Polar Disorder, aren’t they?

 However, if you’re also experiencing any of these symptoms…

 Bad Breath

  • Muscle Pain (Usually backaches)
  • Chronic Indigestion
  • Internal Trembling
  • Chronically Cold Hands and Feet
  • Dizziness
  • Fainting or Blackouts
  • Chronic Headaches
  • Light and Noise Sensitivity
  • Blurry Vision
  • Numbness
  • Excessive Sweating
  • PMS
  • Heart Palpitations

 …I would urge you to take a blood sugar test!

 Even if you’re sure you have Bi-Polar Disorder, it wouldn’t hurt to get tested. Even the best prescription drugs won’t help you to feel better if you’re a Hypoglycemic and you’re not eating right for your condition.

 On that note, I’d like to mention that Depression does go hand-in-hand with Hypoglycemia. Nearly all Hypoglycemics experience Depression—whether as an actual mental condition or simply as a gnarly “side-effect.”

It’s during these times that I like to keep a copy of Julie Fast’s Get It Done When You’re Depressed by my side. It’s helped me to continue working, even when I really, really didn’t feel like it. Whether you’re Bi-Polar, Hypoglycemic, or something in-between… Get that book!

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