I’m going to have a good day… darn it!

Well, I woke up depressed, so I’m going to do every single thing possible to make sure I have a good day.

I will be with friends: I can call or set up times to see them.

I will walk with my friend Sheri.

I WILL appreciate the fact that my mom lives close by and I can see her.  I am so lucky and I know it.

I can play with my mom’s puppy- her name is Cookie and she is an amazing depression buster!

and of course,,, I will remind myself all day that this is an illness and that nothing has changed in my life. I’m depressed because I have bipolar disorder.

It will get better as long as I keep moving forward.

I just realized that the above t-shirt can have two distinct meanings!

Julie

You Don’t Have to Watch the News. You Don’t Even Have to Follow the Election!

I don’t! I stopped reading the news, listening to NPR, reading the news on the internet and even talking with my friends about the topics I found upsetting.

Interestingly, I still know everything that’s going on. I haven’t read a Time Magazine in years. I went to dinner at a friend’s on Monday night and saw the magazine and thought that it would be interesting to read.  Guess what. It was the same stories I’d read years and years ago! I’m not missing anything.

Regarding the elections. My blood starts to boil when I even look at pictures of the debates. My head begins to explode when I think of the money being spent that could go to schools, etc. Though I know it rarely does.

So, I will read a headline and see what’s going on and know that nothing will sway me from my political leanings, so why watch?

It’s hard enough to stay stable when things are calm, I don’t need elevated blood pressure from our death! murder! election! mayhem! Kim Kardashian! world.

PS: Obama went to MY highschool in Hawaii. 😉

 

Accepting New Family and Partner Coaching Clients

Writing books on bipolar disorder has been my career for over ten years. I enjoy writing and plan to do a lot more. (It can be a challenge when the mood swings are paying a visit, that’s for sure.)

Over two years ago, I started coaching partners and family members of people with bipolar disorder as an addition to my writing career.

I never, ever thought I would find work that I enjoy as much as I enjoy coaching. I feel at home with the parents and partners as I have been where they are- and I remain calm during the crises that many of my clients are going through while we are working together. Bipolar disorder is like a puzzle. It’s not always easy to find the right pieces on your own. It helps to have a coach as a guide.

My coaching practice has room for new clients. I take new clients about once a month-and then help them as best I can. It’s a partnership that saves relationships and often lives.

Coaching is not for everyone, but if you are concerned about your relationship with a person with bipolar disorder, it may be a good fit for you. The following link will tell you more. I look forward to talking.

Julie Fast Family and Partner Coaching

Julie

Bipolar Disorder and Dating Poll

This is one of the site’s most popular polls.  How would you answer?

Reader Question: Julie, what is the best lithium level?

All people with bipolar disoder know the medication called lithium.  Did you know that lithium is measured in the blood to make sure the dose is not too high? In the question below, Dyane asks how she can know what level works the best. I wrote a long answer- so be ready to become a lithium expert!

Hey Julie,

I have been taking lithium for the past 4 years. I think it’s a great drug, and I have accepted the fact that I need to take it for the rest of my life as long as it doesn’t poop out on me or destroy my organs. I wondered if you take it or have taken it, and if so, how low a dosage did you take? My other question is do you know ***how low*** do people ever go with lithium – of course everyone is different, everyone has different blood levels of it, etc., so that’s a difficult question to answer well, but I figured I’d throw it your way. I currently take 900 mg of lithium a night, with no adverse side effects (thank God) and my blood level is at the low end of the therapeutic range. .7 I think. THANKS for anything you can share with me! Take care, Dyane

 

Hi Dyane,

Your question has many levels- the kind of question I like!

First of all, drug efficacy as well as side effects are completely dependent on our physiology.  It’s about the brain and the liver as this is basically the train station for most drugs.  My coauthor Dr. John Preston has a theory that those who experience severe side effects tend to keep a med in the liver for a longer period- which means the meds stay in the body longer. Interesting theory.

Lithium, unlike most bipolar disorder medications is processed through the kidneys. Kidneys are sensitive creatures which is why people taking lithium absolutely must have blood tests to measure their lithium level.  I talk to a lot of people who take lithium and the main reason they go off of lithium even though it’s working is for kidney safety.  This is usually after taking the drug for many years.  You don’t have to be scared to take lithium- you just have to be careful.

I started lithium last year and it has profoundly changed my life. Though it’s basically an anti mania drug, it’s also used for serious depression.  I added Zoloft to the lithium and kept on my Lamictal. I also take Ritalin and use Ativan when I can’t sleep.

My lithium side effects were off the chart for months- weight gain, fogginess, apathy ( a very serious side effect), memory loss and sleepiness-  intense sleepiness. But I waited it out. Maybe I just gave my liver and kidneys enough time to process all of pills. I am depression free for the first time in ten years.  Interestingly,  my lithium levels have stayed the same even though my side effects have lessened considerably.

I’m glad the lithium is also working for you and you don’t have side effects. Awesome!

This means that my brain/body reacted differently to the lithium than yours. I wish I were more like you.

Regarding lithium levels: the goal is 1.0, but this is just a benchmark.  It’s mostly to make sure people don’t go in to lithium toxicity. All med dosages are based off average milligrams, but it’s common to go way under and way beyond the dosage with meds such as Lamictal.  For example, my mom takes 125 mg for her depression and I take 700mg.  Lithium dosage is more compact. Most people I know who take lithium are between 900-1200 mg. But this is not really the important statistic- it’s all about the lithium level in the blood.

The reason I’m writing an encyclopedia here is to point out that successful lithium use is a combination of a dosage that works with the minimum of side effects and a level as close to 1.0 as possible.  Your .7 level is very close to 1.0 and is not low at all. When my friend Sharon went to the hospital in a manic episode, her lithium level was at .3  That was too low for her and the mania broke through. But, this isn’t to say that a low level will not work for someone else. If it works, it works.  We just have to keep it from going too high. It’s so important to remember that when blood levels are too high it can lead to lithium toxicity which can ruin the kidneys.

I was in and out of an extremely severe depression for almost five years. Lithium with added Zoloft saved my life. To be honest, I would give up a kidney for this, but I prefer to stay healthy! This is why I get my lithium level checked regularly. I’m glad it works for you.  Lithium works well with other drugs, so if any of you reading this are desperate for relief, lithium may be the answer.

You are now an expert on lithium!  Julie

 

Are you a parent of a child with bipolar disorder?

Parents of kids with bipolar disorder..

I often feel sorry for my mom. She has to deal with so much concerning this illness. I’m having a super tough day today and she knows it.  I always tell her what I’m going through.  I am very honest:  “I’m sick today.  The depression is really bad.”

My mom has used the Health Cards for seven years- this means she knows what I need, but it doesn’t make it easy. She knows I am safe and that I know how to take care of myself. But it must just break her heart to see her child so sick.

I’m lucky that she was willing and able to learn my system. It has saved our relationship – and my life! many times.

I have options, as we all do- when I’m this depressed. On some days, I really do need to see friends and hang out. But friends aren’t always available- on some days, like today, I know that working is my best recourse. I always feel better when I work. A lot of my depression comes from work situations that don’t work out- or that cause too much stress- so when I get things done and do them well, the stress is less!

It’s important to look at what is going well. It feels impossible to do this when you’re depressed, but it’s possible.

  • I see my nephew this afternoon
  •  It’s not raining!
  • I have work ideas that will be successful

For now, I’m going to get to work. No list making, no wondering what I should be doing, no crying and feeling sorry for myself. That is depression, not me.

I promised on my last post that I would write down my accomplishments before I go to bed tonight. I will do this.
I’m glad my mom has the Health Cards- I need her help today and she knows exactly what to do!

If you have a child with bipolar disorder, it’s NOT easy to know what to do. The parenting skills that work with non bipolar kids don’t necessarily translate to kids with the illness.  You have to learn a new set of skills, as my mother did with the Health Cards!

Julie

PS: The picture is of my mom and my nephew David.