Watch out for Summer Mania! Do you know the first signs of your manic episodes?

maniaWatch out for summer mania- my latest post on FACEBOOK.

April may be the cruelest month, but August is the mania month! What are your
first signs of mania? Write them below and maybe we can prevent a few
hospitalizations this year. Mine is always a ridiculous need to
buy drawing and writing implements to the point that I can spend $100
on Sharpies and drawing paper. I also have the thought- oh, life is
finally so good! So good! Here are a few more:

You can find the rest of this on my Julie A. Fast FACEBOOK page. I’m spreading the blogging love!

 

Bipolar Disorder and Keeping Your Friends

Bipolar Disorder and Friendship

I lost many of my friends when I was really ill with bipolar disorder.

That was over 10 years ago. When I started to get better through using my treatment plan 24 freaking hours a day! I thought carefully about the things I needed to change and learn in order to become a good friend.  Here is my biggest suggestion if you want to do the same:

If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything.   This is a great place to start when you want to make friends. No one likes negativity. No one wants to hear how rotten your life is.  I used to be super negative and I always complained about how terrible it is to have bipolar disorder.  Now I just go with the flow on the simple things- don’t like the meal you’re eating? Gauge the situation before you complain. Think the movie you’re watching sucks? Well, maybe the people you’re with are actually enjoying the movie.

Complaining is selfish. I was selfish.

I learned to change instead of complaining all of the time.

It took many years of practice to end a lifetime of negative comments, but these days I’m pretty much positive in what I say no matter where I am. I’m often raging on the inside- miserable and lonely on the inside- or just feel like screaming at how stupid people are!!!!! But I keep it to myself and only let it out when it’s appropriate.

People appreciate this. When I really do have a problem- they know I’m not just being negative. This makes for a strong friendship.

Julie

PS:  When my friend Karen and I are at karaoke and people are being really dumb, we are allowed to yell and be negative as long as we keep it at our table. 🙂 Ha Ha

Ten FACTS I’ve Learned from Coaching Family Members and Partners of People with Bipolar Disorder

b fatherI’ve been a coach for family members and partners of people with bipolar disorder for over five years. I’ve learned a LOT in this time that I rarely see in books or online. I’d like to share this with you. It’s not completely scientific as it’s from my own research.  I’ve talked with thousands of family members and partners since starting BipolarHappens.com in 2002, so the pool of information is very large.

1. People with bipolar disorder go to college at a much higher rate than the national average.

2. The pot, marijuana, weed, etc on the market today is much, much higher in THC than in the past and can cause psychosis in people with bipolar disorder.  People are talking about this now- I didn’t learn about it until working with a family whose son had a lot of psychosis and was diagnosed with a mental health disorder and it turned out to be pot use. This was many years ago and even I was skeptical at the time. Not any more! This pot is dangerous to the bipolar brain.

3. More people are diagnosed while in college than at any other time.

4. Childhood bipolar disorder  (under the age of 13) is real, but it’s rare. The symptoms are different, especially in terms of sleep, anger and school.

5.  ALL people with bipolar disorder have trouble with work.

6.  Dysphoric mania is the hardest- by far the hardest mood swing on couples.

7. Cutting is not a big part of bipolar disorder symptoms.

8.  About 10% of the people I work with who have a loved one diagnosed with bipolar disorder are actually dealing with schizo affective disorder.

9. People with bipolar disorder can have borderline personality disorder traits without actually having a borderline personality disorder diagnosis. The two illnesses are VERY different.

10.  Bipolar disorder that exists with a personality disorder such as narcissism or anti social personality disorder is easy to spot if you know what to look for.  Narcissism and or anti social personality disorder and bipolar disorder are the MOST difficult combinations to treat.

11. Here’s a bonus FACT.

Bipolar disorder can be treated and managed successfully if you have a plan.

Julie

 

Bipolar Happens! is in the Top Ten of Bipolar Disorder Books on the Kindle!

BHenhanced  65Bipolar Happens: 35 Tips and Tricks to Manage Bipolar Disorder is in the top ten of Bipolar Disorder books on the Kindle!

That’s exciting. I went to the Kindle store to see how my books Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder and Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder were doing on the bipolar disorder page. These books are in the top ten ranking- and then I saw that Bipolar Happens! was up there as well.

Fantastic! Bipolar Happens! is an enjoyable book about a serious topic.

Guess what- it’s only $.99 I want it to be available to everyone.

Yes, I think this is a great deal and a good way to get helpful information about bipolar disorder at minimum cost. Bipolar Happens! was my first book. I knew I wanted to talk about how I manage the illness, but I also wanted to tell stories about how it affects my life daily.

There are stories about anger, manic spending, anxiety at a baseball game and what it feels like to be psychotic! It’s a book that family members love too. I love it myself. It’s hopeful.

Click here to go to amazon.com. You can read part of the book and then add it to your Kindle. Wow, $.99!

Julie

PS: If you’re new to my work, this is a great way to experience my writing style and the quality of my information. If you like it, you can come back for more.

Accepting New Family Member and Partner Coaching Clients

b fatherWriting books on bipolar disorder has been my career for over ten years. I enjoy writing and plan to do a lot more. (It can be a challenge when the mood swings are paying a visit, that’s for sure.)

Over four years ago, I started coaching partners and family members of people with bipolar disorder as an addition to my writing career.

I never, ever thought I would find work that I enjoy as much as I enjoy coaching. I feel at home with the parents and partners as I have been where they are- and I remain calm during the crises that many of my clients are going through while we are working together. Bipolar disorder is like a puzzle. It’s not always easy to find the right pieces on your own. It helps to have a coach as a guide.

My coaching practice has room for new clients. I take new clients about once a month-and then help them as best I can. It’s a partnership that saves relationships and often lives.

Coaching is not for everyone, but if you are concerned about your relationship with a person with bipolar disorder, it may be a good fit for you. The following link will tell you more. I look forward to talking.

Julie Fast Family and Partner Coaching

Julie

Very Good Job! Good for You Julie!

Before I created The Health Cards- I used to be terrifically hard on myself. I don’t think I praised myself for years- except when I was manic of course and then the praise was a bit grandiose. 😉

I now praise myself each time I accomplish something. Always. It’s automatic now- even when I’m depressed. When I finish something, I have the thought- Good for you Julie!

Do you do this? It took me a while to master the technique, but I’m glad I did. It’s a lot better than what my mind used to say.

Julie