Being honest with the people in your life is very, very hard. I\u2019ve found myself staying in friendships and listening to things I don\u2019t like or don\u2019t agree with just to be a good friend who listens and accepts the other person. This is something that is preached to us a lot- we need to be rational and non judgmental. And yet, there are things people do that I don\u2019t like, but to be totally honest, I\u2019m scared to tell the truth as I fear the relationship will end. I fear that I will come across as non understanding and needy.<\/p>\n
I then try to be a good friend by saying to myself- it\u2019s her life- it\u2019s his choice. It has nothing to do with me.<\/p>\n
And finally, as a result of this dishonest \u2018understanding\u2019 on my part, my upset with the other person\u2019s behavior festers and then comes out in one big scream on my part. I\u2019ve done it over and over again. I\u2019m too understanding of the other person and not understanding of the fact that it\u2019s ok to be honest in a relationship.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s ok to say, I care about you, but I don\u2019t like what you\u2019re doing. If the friendship is a good one, it will survive. If it doesn\u2019t \u2013 things can end gracefully before you blow up and really feel terrible.<\/p>\n
This is advice to myself.<\/p>\n
Julie<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Being honest with the people in your life is very, very hard. I\u2019ve found myself staying in friendships and listening to things I don\u2019t like or don\u2019t agree with just to be a good friend who listens and accepts the other person. This is something that is preached to us a lot- we need to be rational and non judgmental. And yet, there are things people do that I don\u2019t like, but to be totally honest, I\u2019m scared to tell the truth as I fear the relationship will end. I fear that I will come across as non understanding and needy.<\/p>\n
I then try to be a good friend by saying to myself- it\u2019s her life- it\u2019s his choice. It has nothing to do with me.<\/p>\n
And finally, as a result of this dishonest \u2018understanding\u2019 on my part, my upset with the other person\u2019s behavior festers and then comes out in one big scream on [ Read More ]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/633"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=633"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/633\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12063,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/633\/revisions\/12063"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=633"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=633"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=633"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}