{"id":518,"date":"2008-11-29T17:18:33","date_gmt":"2008-11-29T17:18:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/2008\/11\/29\/bipolar-disorder-and-people-who-change-plans-2\/"},"modified":"2018-05-15T10:01:31","modified_gmt":"2018-05-15T17:01:31","slug":"bipolar-disorder-and-people-who-change-plans-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/bipolar-disorder-and-people-who-change-plans-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Bipolar Disorder and People Who Change Plans!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I now a lot of people with bipolar disorder and we all have one thing in common. We need the people in our lives to be dependable. I used to stay in relationships with people who made me sick. Here is how they made me sick: <\/font><\/p>\n

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– Call and want to meet and then cancel<\/font><\/p>\n

– Forget we set a time to meet and then tell me it\u2019s my fault as I expected something from them that wasn\u2019t actually confirmed<\/font><\/p>\n

– Come on strong and then fade away<\/font><\/p>\n

– Remained secretive even when they knew me well<\/font><\/p>\n

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And finally- these people in no way understood, even when I told them over and over again, that I\u2019m an extremely flexible person in most areas of my life\u2026 except when it comes to changing plans at the last minute. I need structure when I\u2019m depressed- not a \u2018let\u2019s just see what happens\u2019 situation. <\/font><\/p>\n

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I used to attract a lot of these people-\u00a0( maybe you do to!) It\u2019s not good for me. I have good news though. I now have a radar that now knows the signs that someone is like this and I end the relationship in a nice way, but very quickly. <\/font><\/p>\n

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A person who calls or sends an email saying they want to meet \u2013 and then doesn\u2019t reply to my calls or responses until they feel like it- is not someone I want in my life. This laissez faire way of life is totally fine- but not in my life! <\/font><\/p>\n

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My life is now filled with dependable people whom I love and cherish. They understand my need for structure. I know how to let go of the people who drive me crazy and hang onto the ones who don\u2019t! <\/font><\/p>\n

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Julie <\/font><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I now a lot of people with bipolar disorder and we all have one thing in common. We need the people in our lives to be dependable. I used to stay in relationships with people who made me sick. Here is how they made me sick: <\/p>\n<\/p>\n

– Call and want to meet and then cancel<\/p>\n

– Forget we set a time to meet and then tell me it\u2019s my fault as I expected something from them that wasn\u2019t actually confirmed<\/p>\n

– Come on strong and then fade away<\/p>\n

– Remained secretive even when they knew me well<\/p>\n<\/p>\n

And finally- these people in no way understood, even when I told them over and over again, that I\u2019m an extremely flexible person [ Read More ]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/518"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=518"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/518\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12125,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/518\/revisions\/12125"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=518"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=518"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=518"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}