{"id":497,"date":"2013-05-08T00:13:09","date_gmt":"2013-05-08T07:13:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/2008\/11\/08\/what-people-with-bipolar-disorder-want-in-a-partner\/"},"modified":"2018-05-15T09:58:15","modified_gmt":"2018-05-15T16:58:15","slug":"what-people-with-bipolar-disorder-want-in-a-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/what-people-with-bipolar-disorder-want-in-a-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"A letter to the partner of a person with bipolar disorder"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Dear Loving Partner, <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Here are the qualities I so appreciate in you: <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Consistency- this helps me stay consistent. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Understanding of\u00a0my need for structure- and an equal understanding of how hard it can be for me to create and stick to structure.\u00a0 (This is a tough one and is often very hard on\u00a0you I know.)<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Willing to read books about bipolar disorder- especially Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder<\/em> and Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder.\u00a0 <\/em>We can then talk about the illness together. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Love, kindness and honesty.\u00a0 You have to tell\u00a0me how you feel if I upset you- otherwise it stays bottled in and you will want to leave\u00a0 me.\u00a0 And then you feel guilty! ( I know you probably feel this way sometimes and it’s ok.)<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

5. When I am unreasonable, you say, \u201cThis is bipolar disorder talking. We need to focus on managing this illness together. I love you, but I will not have you treat me unkindly.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 This is how to avoid The Bipolar Conversation. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Stability. Your stability helps my stability.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

7.\u00a0I want you to expect the same standards as above for\u00a0me so that our relationship will be equal and not one based on caretaking. <\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you, <\/span><\/p>\n

Your loving partner<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Dear Loving Partner, <\/p>\n

Here are the qualities I so appreciate in you: <\/p>\n

1. Consistency- this helps me stay consistent. <\/p>\n

2. Understanding of my need for structure- and an equal understanding of how hard it can be for me to create and stick to structure. (This is a tough one and is often very hard on you I know.) <\/p>\n

3. Willing to read books about bipolar disorder- especially Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder and Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder. We can then talk about the illness together. <\/p>\n

4. Love, kindness and honesty. You have to tell me how you feel if I upset you- otherwise it stays bottled in and you will want to leave me. And then you feel guilty! ( I know you probably feel this way sometimes [ Read More ]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/497"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=497"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/497\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11383,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/497\/revisions\/11383"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=497"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=497"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=497"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}