When I have certain mood swings, I find myself getting really picky about each word a person says. I will look at a sentence from an email, or remember what a person said and then examine it way too closely. Did they mean this- or did they mean that? Are they mad at me? Have I done something wrong?<\/p>\n
This kind of examination is destructive for relationships- especially when it happens over email.<\/p>\n
I have found that if someone is upset they will usually tell me. If I have done something to offend them, they will usually tell me. If I never hear from someone again, that is their choice. I now remind myself that I am only responsible for my own behaviors. What is said to me or what is sent to me in email is not in my control.<\/p>\n
I still have the same worries and tendencies when I’m sick to break apart everything that happens to me, but I resist the impulse of telling others about it and just focus on my own health.<\/p>\n
Julie<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
When I have certain mood swings, I find myself getting really picky about each word a person says. I will look at a sentence from an email, or remember what a person said and then examine it way too closely. Did they mean this- or did they mean that? Are they mad at me? Have I done something wrong?<\/p>\n
This kind of examination is destructive for relationships- especially when it happens over email.<\/p>\n
I have found that if someone is upset they will usually tell me. If I have done something to offend them, they will usually tell me. If I never hear from someone again, that is their choice. I now remind myself that I am only responsible for my own behaviors. What is said to me or what is sent to me in email is not in my control.<\/p>\n