{"id":186,"date":"2013-04-15T00:33:45","date_gmt":"2013-04-15T07:33:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/2008\/05\/28\/depression-and-generocity\/"},"modified":"2018-05-15T09:58:16","modified_gmt":"2018-05-15T16:58:16","slug":"depression-and-generocity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/depression-and-generocity\/","title":{"rendered":"You can be happy for others, even when you&#8217;re depressed"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-7457\" style=\"margin: 25px;\" alt=\"generocity\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg\" width=\"258\" height=\"195\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg 258w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity-150x113.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 258px) 100vw, 258px\" \/><\/a>It\u2019s so hard to be generous when you feel like hell.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard to be happy for others when you\u2019re so unhappy you feel like crying.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard not to be jealous when you see someone get what you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard to say, <em>\u2018I\u2019m so proud of you! Good job! You deserve it! I\u2019m happy for you!\u201d<\/em> when you feel like your world is falling apart.<\/p>\n<p>But guess what, you can teach yourself to be happy for others- even when you feel you can&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>I call it &#8216;acting as if&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p>When I\u2019m unbelievably jealous of a friend,\u00a0 I first have to look inside myself and see where the jealousy comes from- it usually comes from depression. In fact, if I&#8217;m jealous and depressed and mean and nasty and then the friend starts having problems, I actually feel better! It&#8217;s awful and something I fight a lot!\u00a0Jealousy not the real me.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">It&#8217;s easy to be happy for others when I&#8217;m not depressed.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So, if I treat the depression, I can decrease the jealousy.<\/p>\n<p>I tell a little lie when someone does something amazing and I just want to yell and scream at them that it\u2019s not fair that they get what I can\u2019t have because I have bipolar disorder!<\/p>\n<p>I remind myself of how much I love the person who just got the good news and I say, \u2018I\u2019m jealous, but so proud of you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Julie<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-7457\" style=\"margin: 25px;\" alt=\"generocity\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg\" width=\"258\" height=\"195\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity.jpg 258w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/generocity-150x113.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 258px) 100vw, 258px\" \/><\/a>It\u2019s so hard to be generous when you feel like hell.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard to be happy for others when you\u2019re so unhappy you feel like crying.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard not to be jealous when you see someone get what you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard to say, \u2018I\u2019m so proud of you! Good job! You deserve it! I\u2019m happy for you!\u201d when you feel like your world is falling apart.<\/p>\n<p>But guess what, you can teach yourself to be happy for others- even when you feel you can&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>I call it &#8216;acting as if&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p>When I\u2019m unbelievably jealous of a friend, I first have to look inside myself and see where the jealousy comes from- it usually comes from depression. In fact, if I&#8217;m jealous and depressed and mean and nasty and then the friend starts having <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/depression-and-generocity\/\">[ Read More ]<\/a><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=186"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11399,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/186\/revisions\/11399"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}