They don’t.<\/p>\n
No one wants this illness.<\/p>\n
No one with bipolar wants to walk away from a good relationship.<\/p>\n
No one with bipolar loves and supports their kids for many years and then gets manic and suddenly disappears and doesn’t contact their kids unless it is bipolar.<\/i><\/p>\n
This terrible and scary behavior is part of untreated bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Why can you read Loving and think- how does Julie know so much about my relationship! She doesn’t know me! And yet it’s like she is in the room with us.<\/p>\n
It’s because your partner’s behavior you recognize in the book is part of a well documented, ancient, genetic illness.<\/p>\n
Bipolar is NOT an excuse for the behavior. The behavior is never ok. Ever. What you experience is very real. It is incredibly painful for you.<\/p>\n
This isn’t an excuse, but it is an explanation for the confusing and heartbreaking behavior.<\/p>\n
Love is a chemical process.<\/b><\/p>\n
When the brain chemicals that affect feelings are not functioning in a stable way, this naturally affects feelings of love.<\/p>\n
In euphoric mania it creates feelings of ‘love’ that are not love.<\/p>\n
This is why I got into relationships in one week and then got married. It doesn\u2019t discount how much I cared for these men eventually, but the start of the relationship was massive euphoric mania.<\/p>\n
In dysphoric mania, it creates a removal of love and a change in love where a person says, “I don’t love you and never did.”<\/p>\n
This is chemical.<\/p>\n
When I eventually left my first husband Dan, I was in a dysphoric, psychotic episode. I met him when I was in a euphoric manic episode.<\/p>\n
I met him when I was ill. I left him when I was ill. No one understood what happened until I was diagnosed ten years later.<\/p>\n
No one would every say the reason a person with diabetes can’t handle chocolate cake is because the cake scared them in the past.I’m not trying to be sarcastic here. I mean this literally.<\/p>\n
No one looks for a psychological explanation for epilepsy.<\/p>\n
Bipolar is an illness. The only way to prevent these terrible situations where a partner leaves is management. This is why I wrote Loving.<\/p>\n
I want you to have peace. Focus on the bipolar.<\/p>\n
Julie<\/p>\n
Here is a link to an article from Bp Magazine<\/a> \u00a0that shares more about this situation.<\/p>\n If you’re a partner of someone with bipolar disorder and are new to my work, start with Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder.<\/a> There is hope and there is help.<\/p>\n Julie<\/p>\n
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