{"id":13167,"date":"2020-05-05T12:57:33","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T19:57:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/?p=13167"},"modified":"2020-05-04T12:59:40","modified_gmt":"2020-05-04T19:59:40","slug":"why-depressed-people-seek-violent-online-content","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/why-depressed-people-seek-violent-online-content\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Depressed People Seek Violent Online Content"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-13168 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--2048x2048.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--400x400.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">Why do depressed people seek out violent and aggressive online images and videos?<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">I&#8217;ve lived with serious depression for over 35 years. One behavior that always shocks is my desire for crime scene photos, true crime and violent behaviors that get prosecuted. When I&#8217;m not depressed, my desire for this content goes way down. For some people this manifests as more violent video games or porn.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT THIS SIDE OF MENTAL ILLNESS&#8230;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">.. but it&#8217;s incredibly normal and my coaching clients tell me stories of how it affects the entire family.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">90% of the clients I work with experience a form of violence with a loved one.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">Here is an excerpt from a book I&#8217;m writing for Penguin about depression and social media. I am not going to use this section exactly in the book, but thought you might like to see it.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"_2cuy _509y _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo\">My Online Life When Depressed <\/span><\/h2>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">I look at the most horrible images on my phone. Videos of arrests and fires, dangerous situations and people who have less than I do. I get outraged and then upset and then more depressed&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.. but it feels good in the moment. It&#8217;s sick.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<ul class=\"_5a_q _5yj1\" dir=\"ltr\">\n<li class=\"_2cuy _509q _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo _4yxp\">Depression wants a friend to commiserate with! <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<ul class=\"_5a_q _5yj1\" dir=\"ltr\">\n<li class=\"_2cuy _509q _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo _4yxp\">Depression seeks content that matches my brain chemicals. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">I like shows where killers get caught and get the death penalty. I shout at the screen when people stay in abused situations and I call them, &#8220;Stupid morons!&#8221;<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">The pain of others that would normally create empathy or sadness in my brain instead creates a self righteous satisfaction that bad people get what they deserve and stupid people deserve punishment too!<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo _4yxp\">Imagine the destruction this creates if a person is not aware that the depression is causing the change in behavior. <\/span><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">When I\u2019m depressed, I have to remind myself that the depressed part of me will SEEK out what makes me more depressed. It\u2019s sick and twisted, but it\u2019s very real. I then talk to myself and stop the behavior so that I can end the depression instead of feeding it with horrific online content.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">As a parent, you first have to know the signs of a child&#8217;s depression. You can use my books to make symptom lists. I highly recommend using your Health Cards each time you see the depression starting. (They will be back online for purchase soon! Promise!)<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">Then, use the ideas in Loving and Take Charge to avoid The Bipolar Conversation.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">And finally, focus on depression management all day long when a loved one is depressed. Depression leads to the online behavior- only addressing the behavior never works:<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<ul class=\"_5a_q _5yj1\" dir=\"ltr\">\n<li class=\"_2cuy _509q _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo\">Why do you want to look at such terrible things Julie! <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<ul class=\"_5a_q _5yj1\" dir=\"ltr\">\n<li class=\"_2cuy _509q _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxo\">What is wrong with you Julie! <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">This way of talking only drives the person with depression deeper into the violent thinking and scrolling.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">Here is how I talk to myself when I finally realize my negative mood is affecting what I seek online:<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><span class=\"_4yxp\">Ah, Julie. The serial killer, British true crime detective shows, Murderpedia and crime scene photos are here again. The depression is raging. Let&#8217;s focus on the depression and get you out of the this cycle. Let&#8217;s fill your brain with something positive. Turn it off.<\/span> Turn on Parks and Recreation or a Disney Movie. I want the depression to end. Help me help you.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">(I really do talk to myself this way!)<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Get-Done-When-Youre-Depressed\/dp\/1592577067\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Get it Done When You&#8217;re Depressed<\/a> is a constant companion when my angry, murder scrolling gets out of hand. This is the book to get if you want to help someone manage depression.<\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"_2cuy _3dgx _2vxa\">Julie<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-13168 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--1536x1536.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--2048x2048.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/anger-violent-japan--400x400.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/> Why do depressed people seek out violent and aggressive online images and videos? I&#8217;ve lived with serious depression for over 35 years. One behavior that always shocks is my desire for crime scene photos, true crime and violent behaviors that get prosecuted. When I&#8217;m not depressed, my desire for this content goes way down. For some people this manifests as more violent video games or porn. NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT THIS SIDE OF MENTAL ILLNESS&#8230; .. but it&#8217;s incredibly normal and my coaching clients tell me stories of how it affects the entire family. 90% of the clients I work with experience a form of violence with a loved one. Here is an excerpt from a book I&#8217;m writing for Penguin about depression and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/why-depressed-people-seek-violent-online-content\/\">[ Read More ]<\/a><!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on get_the_excerpt --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":13168,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13167"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13167"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13167\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13170,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13167\/revisions\/13170"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13168"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13167"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13167"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13167"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}