{"id":12982,"date":"2019-12-26T13:26:04","date_gmt":"2019-12-26T21:26:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/?p=12982"},"modified":"2019-12-26T13:27:24","modified_gmt":"2019-12-26T21:27:24","slug":"sometimes-walking-away-is-the-only-option","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/sometimes-walking-away-is-the-only-option\/","title":{"rendered":"Sometimes Walking Away is the Only Option"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Situations that others can handle with a bit of stress are often impossible for me to handle.<\/p>\n

Relationship issues that others can talk through, forget or forgive are not something I can live with as other people can.<\/p>\n

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Bipolar<\/span><\/span> disorder tells me what I can and can’t handle and I have to listen to this illness if I want to stay as stable as possible.<\/p>\n

I have left many relationships that my other friends could have tolerated.<\/p>\n

I have said no to more work projects than those where I say yes.<\/p>\n

I have walked away from book deals that were not going well. At great detriment to my finances.<\/p>\n

That is life with bipolar. My goal is stability. This means I have to walk away from many situations that the stable people in my life can navigate with relative ease.<\/p>\n

It is never in my favor to do this professionally or financially. Walking away always comes with significant personal loss.<\/p>\n

I can accept this reality or fight it. I don’t get to work full time. I can’t be in relationships that are contentious. I can’t say yes to ‘great opportunities.’<\/p>\n

Everything I do takes bipolar into account. Are there some people with bipolar who don’t have to live this way? Some. But the majority of us have to treat bipolar first.<\/p>\n

The trade off isn’t fair. I hate it. But I am alive. Living with a serious mental health disorder isn’t fun. No chronic illness is fun!<\/p>\n

But….the result is that I have at least 80% less mood swings than I used to. That is amazing!<\/p>\n

The goal is to find peace in myself so that I can get on with life. I am SO much better now than in the past. The torment is gone. My relationships are solid. I do well on the work I am able to do.<\/p>\n

The alternative is mood swings. I walk away when I have to. I choose the Stable Life.<\/p>\n

Julie<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h1>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/p>\n

Situations that others can handle with a bit of stress are often impossible for me to handle.<\/p>\n

Relationship issues that others can talk through, forget or forgive are not something I can live with as other people can.<\/p>\n

Bipolar disorder tells me what I can and can’t handle and I have to listen to this illness if I want to stay as stable as possible.<\/p>\n

I have left many relationships that my other friends could have tolerated.<\/p>\n

I have said no to more work projects than those where I say yes.<\/p>\n

I have walked away from book deals that were not going well. At great detriment to my finances.<\/p>\n

That is life with bipolar. My goal is stability. This means I have to walk away from many situations that the stable people in my life can [ Read More ]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10561,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12982"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12982"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12982\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12985,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12982\/revisions\/12985"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10561"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12982"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12982"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bipolarhappens.com\/bhblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12982"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}