I just have a phone conversation with my dear friend Gayathri. She has dealt with serious depression for most of her life. I asked her, “Do you have a hard time with your depression when you’re in a situation where you don’t know whats going on?” She laughed and said, ‘YES! I have learned to live with some of it. But I do get stressed.\u00a0 We can’t make other people tell us what they are feeling. It’s up to them. And we can’t control when something will happen.” She is so right. I’m going through this right now and can feel the depression and anxiety boiling inside of me simply becuase I am in a situation where I have almost no control and have no idea of the outcome.<\/p>\n
I have two options:<\/p>\n
Option #1\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Let it eat me up and affect my work and other relationships. I can let it grow and grow inside me until I have a panic attack or forcefully ask the person what is wrong or what I did.\u00a0 (Been there! Done that! Doesn’t work! )<\/p>\n
Option #2\u00a0 Let people be who they are.\u00a0 If you think about it- no one does anything that has any relationship to you. It’s 100% about their feelings and their reasoning. Unless they know why they are doing something and want to tell you about it\u00a0– and many don’t, you will not have any answers.<\/p>\n
That is living with uncertainty. The feeling is terrible for those without<\/em> bipolar, it often feels unbearable for us. But we can live with these feelings and let life unfold naturally without forcing the situation due to our bipolar needs. If the time comes where you need to make a decision based off of what you need, think very carefully before you speak. Time is the best option in all cases as it gives you time and the other person time to decide on what needs to happen in the future. I have ruined many a relationship with angry emails and phone calls. Don’t do it.<\/p>\n You can learn to live with the rocky emotions of uncertainty.<\/p>\n Julie<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I just have a phone conversation with my dear friend Gayathri. She has dealt with serious depression for most of her life. I asked her, “Do you have a hard time with your depression when you’re in a situation where you don’t know whats going on?” She laughed and said, ‘YES! I have learned to live with some of it. But I do get stressed. We can’t make other people tell us what they are feeling. It’s up to them. And we can’t control when something will happen.” She is so right. I’m going through this right now and can feel the depression and anxiety boiling inside of me simply becuase I am in a situation where I have almost no control and have no idea of the outcome.<\/p>\n I have two options:<\/p>\n